Category: Situational

School Approaches – Getting an A in Dating

Picking up at school 101

Approaching at school can be done the same way that you would approach at a coffee shop.  One great advantage that you will have is that you already have a certain level of trust and familiarity just due to the fact that you go to the same school as her. You’re already ahead of the game and you might not even know it!

Physical Appearance

  • Smile
  • Dress well
  • Keep your teeth clean
  • Keep yourself clean shaven

Approaching

It is important to approach girls at your school.  It they are in your class the chances are that you are going to be able to meet her without even having to approach her, if they are not in your class or your class is really big than try one of the following openers:

  • Hi, are you taking (insert major here)?  (If yes) How are you liking it so far?  My name is _____.  (If no) What are you taking and how are you liking it so far?  My name is_____
  • Hi, my name is _____.  How is the year going for you so far?  My name is _____.
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Grocery Store Approaches – The Broccoli Technique

The basics – Where What Why

Everybody has to go and get groceries, that includes you and women that you are attracted to.  The grocery store is a place where you will consistently have opportunities to talk to beautiful women. This is where you’re going to find the widest range of women so make sure that you go to grocery stores in regions that have the type of women you want to attract.

For example, if you’re a student looking to pick up some hot college girls, make sure you to go the grocery store near campus!

Here are some pointers to keep in mind when you approach:

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Club Approaches – Dance With The Hottest Girl

Build Yourself Up

Picking up girls in a club goes by a different set of rules than picking up girls in daytime setting.  In a club your attractiveness to a girl is proportional to how popular you are to the rest of the people in the club.  The more people who want to talk to you the more interesting and attractive you will be to whichever girl that you decide to approach.

Here are a few tips on how to pick up girls in clubs:

Create Social Proof

Social proof is when somebody sees the way that everybody is being friendly and behaving as though you are special and, they see you that way as well even if they don’t know why everybody is treating you that way.

  • Upon entering the club immediately great at least 25% of the people there with a quick greeting i.e. “Hey, how are you? Cool, I will talk to you later” and quickly move on.
  • After greeting a large number of people and groups find a good piece of real estate in the club where you are very visible and there is a lot of traffic.  It is best to have a friend or several who you like to talk to with you.
  • Dress well, slightly flashy before going out, and make sure you’ve refined your body language so you carry yourself well.
  • Get down solid eye contact and walk with your head held high and a smile on your face.
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Park Approaches – Girl Of Your Dreams Is Running There

Girls at the park

The park is an amazing place to meet single women in the months when the weather is favorable.  Not only are you getting some fresh air, clearing your mind and putting yourself in a good mood… but there are usually pretty, health conscious women in the park just waiting to be approached. Remember to always keep it light!  Here are some pointers:

What to say:

Situational Opener:

  • “That book looks interesting, what is it about.”
  • “I really like that (insert clothing article, jewellery, etc…) where did you get it from?”
  • “It’s a beautiful day out, do you know whether it’s going to be nice like this all day?”

Direct Opener:

  • “Hi, I had to come over here and tell you that I think you are gorgeous.  I could not go through the rest of my day without talking to you.”
  • “Hi, I think you look…(3 second pause) absolutely gorgeous and I had to come over here and talk to you.”
  • “Hi, my name is ____ and I noticed you from a distance and thought that it would be nice of me to sit down and give you some of my company.”  (You sit down with a little smirk to convey that you were making a joke…well sort of ;))
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Street Approaches – Doing It Right [Expert]

Street Approaches 101

You are walking down the street and you see the most beautiful women that you have seen so far this week.  You want to talk to her but you are not sure how to do it.  I’ll admit, this is one of the most tricky approaches to do because people are often in a hurry in the street. The first step is going to be to get her attention so be bold!

What to Say

Situational Opener

  • What are you looking for? Because everybody’s looking for something…unless you have found it already.  My name is _____ (Credit goes to Mystery)
  • Hi, are you from around here?  I am from over there… (point in the opposite direction so she turns and faces away from the direction she was walking in).
  • Hey, are you confident enough to accept a sincere compliment?  (She answers yes normally).  You answer with “Me to, (point at yourself) Go ahead”
  • Hey, I really like the way that you carry yourself, do you do (yoga, dancing, etc…)
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Work Approaches – Should You? And How!

Approaching At Work – The Basics

Approaching and meeting women at work can be a double edged sword, it can be quite easy to do, but it can also very easily backfire if it doesn’t work out.  So, if you do decide to approach that women at work it is recommended that you do your best to ensure that she is cool.

We recommend trusting your instinct… sometimes it’s worth it!

That being said here are some pointers to help:

Openers

  • “Hello, my name is _____”
  • Hi, are you new I don’t think I have every seen you before (good especially when you know you have both seen each other)
  • Hi, you seem like you are cool so I decided to come over and introduce myself to you, my name is _____
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Public Transport Approaches – Suit Up For Success

Public Transit – Do's and Don't

The Public Transportation system is a really nice, easy and non-threatening way to meet women.  It is also very convenient in that, providing you take public transportation regularly you just need to create the habit of talking to women instead of whatever else you were doing beforehand.  Here are some pointers:

What to Say

Direct Openers

  • Hi, you seem cool, my name is _____
  • I like your (shoes, hair, jewelery), you seem to have a good sense of fashion, I would like to have your opinion on some clothes I want to buy at the mall, do you have a little bit of time (now, tomorrow or later in the week).
  • Hi, I think you are very attractive and I couldn’t let you get off the bus without seeing if we could see each other again later (tonight, tomorrow or another time).
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Bar Approaches – Getting Hot Women

Social Proof At Bars

The bar is a great place to meet a lot of women.  The approach in a bar is very similar to clubs except that you don’t have to talk as loud.  Remember that your success with women in a bar has a lot to do with how popular and cool you are to the rest of the people in the bar.  If she sees you standing in a corner by yourself drinking alone and looking self conscious she’s probably not going to react very well to you when you finally work up the courage after your twelfth beer to go and talk to her.

Here are some suggestions to increase your chances:

Create Social Proof:

  • Bring as many of your cool friends as you can with you.  This is automatic social proof and, besides you are there to have fun with your friends.  If you happen to meet a girl along the way that is just a bonus.
  • Quickly greet roughly 1/4 of the people if possible upon entering, even if you don’t know them i.e. “Hey, how are you doing?, cool I’ll talk to you later”.  Even if the girl is of interest in you keep on moving and greeting.
  • Once you are done doing this find a good spot where there is a lot of people passing by.  This will give any girls who are interested in you a very easy excuse to come close by to you.
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Coffee Shop Approaches – Give Me Some Sugar

The coffee shop is a great place to meet single women who would welcome the opportunity to talk to you.  The great thing about coffee shops is that women will usually be very open to talk to you if you approach them properly.

What to say:

Situational Opener:

“That book looks interesting, what is it about.”

“I really like that (insert clothing article,  jewelery, etc…) where did you get it from?”

Direct Opener:

“Hi, I had to come over here and tell you that I think you are gorgeous.  Normally I wouldn’t have done it but I literally could not go through the rest of my day asking myself what would have happened if I would have came over here and talked to you.”

“Hi, I think you look…(3 second pause) absolutely gorgeous and I had to come over here and talk to you.”

“Hi, my name is ____ and I noticed you from a distance and thought that it would be nice of me to sit down and give you some of my company.”  (You sit down with a little smirk to convey that you were making a joke…well sort of ;))

Please note that you should be sitting down during or just after all the openers.

How to say it:

Body Language:

When you are walking up to her focus on keeping your breathing as deep as possible, this will help you to stay relaxed.  Focus on looking her in the eyes as you are talking and talk clearly and slowly.