Category: Sticking Points

Banish Your Bad State Of Mind Forever

Having Fun

Being in a bad state means that your overall emotional, physical and psychological condition is negative. If you are in a bad state while you are attempting to pick up women you will find yourself fighting an uphill battle.

Fortunately, state can change withing seconds with the right techniques. If you managed to get yourself into a bad state, then you can get yourself out of it just as quickly. Here are some tips on getting into a good state.

What To Do To Change Your State

In order to change your state you have to work on three levels

The Levels are:

  • Physical
  • Focus
  • Language

Physical

  • Exaggerate the posture of a confident man.  Stick out your chest and lift up your head and stand with a confident posture.
  • Look upwards and smile
  • Jump up and down
  • Play the air guitar and sing your favourite song
  • Laugh (even fake laughing will work!)
  • Shadow Box
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Approach Anxiety – The Magic Pill Solution

Never Get Anxiety Again

Approach anxiety is a very normal feeling, in my own experience I have found it to be something that can be significantly reduced but never actually completely vanquished.  The best way to get rid of approach anxiety is to start off with REALLY easy approaches and build up to more challenging ones.

Warm up before approaching women:

Here are some openers you can use to warm-up, they are made to be easy and VERY low risk (in other words, you won’t get rejected and it will give you a chance to get into a talkative state)

  • Ask somebody for a pencil so that you can write something down.  While they are searching for the pen or pencil it is a great time to make small talk.
  • Ask somebody for change for a dollar or a five…again while they are rooting around for the change you make small talk.
  • Ask for the time, when they stop to give it to you make small talk if you don’t feel too nervous.
  • Ask for directions to a place that is nearby, if they don’t know where it is then ask for suggestions for something like it.
  • Make small talk with a store clerk for 2 to 5 minutes.
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Appearance – What Most Men Don’t Know

Looking Good – The Basics

While appearance is far from being the only thing that attracts women it is still extremely important. Just imagine that you’re walking up to a woman and she has 30 seconds (or less) to determine if you’re the kind of man she wants to spend the rest of her life with.

Are you really going to be able to convince her with your wit and personality? Probably not… that’s why having proper appearance, tonality and body language is crucial.

Here are some steps you can take to appear at your very best:

Short Term

1. Stay Clean and Smell Good. Make sure you are clean, your hair is fresh and well-groomed, and put on  deodorant and some cologne.

2. Get a Great Haircut.  See a couple of hairdressers and get some advice on which haircut would look good on you and suit your type.  Be creative and find a style that goes with you.

3. Find The Kind of Facial Hair That Suits You. Yes! How would you look with a mustache, chin-beard, full beard, long sideburns, any combination thereof, or shaven plainly clean?

4. Do a quick intense workout. If you only have a little time and want to give yourself some good body language, then do a quick yet intense workout. This will vary according to your skill level, but for instance: Do as many push-ups as you can, pull ups, crunches followed by a run. Working out your muscles will give you the ‘pumped look’, improve your body language and the cardiovascular exercise will give you a healthy glow.

5. Sleep If you’re planning on going out on a date the next day, make sure to get a great night’s sleep. Earlier is better and you’ll look 1.3x better if you do (yes I just made that statistic up, but the fact is that you’ll look better)

6. Shoes, iron. People notice how ‘clean’ you are. So the best quick fix you can do is to iron your clothes so it looks “new” and make sure that your shoes are clean and polished. Women notice shoes… a lot.

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Never Have A Girl Flake On You Again

Preventing Flakes 101

It is really cool when you start getting girls phone numbers regularly and easily.  Unfortunately this is usually accompanied by the realization that, although you got her phone number it is next to impossible to get her to pick up the phone or respond to the voice mails that you are leaving her, in other words she is flaking on you.

If ever that happens, don’t take it personally! There are a ton of reasons why a girl might be interested one day and not the other. Instead, concentrate on getting more numbers.

That said, here are the best ways to prevent flaking:

What to Do:

  • Get her to qualify herself during the interaction with you (i.e. One of the most important things for me in all of my relationships is honesty, what about you?)
  • Get her to commit to seeing you again (i.e. So, when are you free?  Okay so I will give you a call on Friday in the afternoon to set something up with you).
  • Show her that you are not attached to meeting up with her (i.e. So, between 1 and 10 how interested are you in meeting up with me again?  Only 8?  I don’t think it’s going to work out because I am only interested in going out with girls who are really interested.)
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