State Changing Techniques
Focus
Instead of focusing on something such as getting rejected, focus (or think) on one of the following points:
- Focus on how gorgeous the girl is and how badly you want her, be like a child who focuses on how badly he wants a toy at the store…let how beautiful she is be the only thing on your mind.
- Focus on having a great time, concentrate on something outside of yourself such as how many trees you are walking/driving past, how many people there are in the club, or the crazy person outside
- Make up stories about the people who you see in the club (i.e. The guy sitting alone at the table just won a million dollars and is trying to decide if he should tell his ex-wife about it or not.
- Use an elastic band and snap it whenever you focus on something negative.
Language
The words that you say to yourself have a very big affect on your state. Create, in advance, positive statements to replace your habitual negative ones. Here are some examples:
- Am I present right now?
- Women are extremely lucky to have me talking to them
- I am cool, confident and attractive
- I am extremely charismatic
- I don’t get rejected by women, I just find out whether they have good taste in men (credit Ross Jeffries)
- I wonder if that girl has a nice personality?
Final Note
If you really want to quickly kick start your state than do a direct approach. Directly approach a women, stop her with a hand motion and offer her a genuine compliment: “I just wanted to let you know that I really like how your hair looked today”. Expect nothing! What happens is that she’ll smile, thank you and it will immediately put you in a good state.
I’ve read your article and I’ve noticed that laughing or a fake laugh can change a bad state or mood. How often will I do this? Because I might look crazy if I laugh without reasons.
Thanks men for your guidelines. But is it really effective?