Tag: How to approach women

Approching Women With Balls Of Steel [Direct]

Good Approaches That Will Work

Using direct openers to approach women is one of the most exhilarating things you can do as a man. It takes a lot of balls to go up to a woman and convey how you feel directly. That’s why it’s fun, and that’s why it works. In a direct opener, you immediately indicate your intentions within seconds of meeting the girl.

A good opener will not only let her know that you’re interested, but will tell her WHY you’re interested as well.

Here’s how to do a direct approach:

First, start with eye contact and a smile. I know this is obvious but it’s also one of the biggest mistakes that guys make when approaching. You should be happy to see the girl and this happiness makes you smile.

Examples:

Good

“Hi, I really like your necklace and I just had to come talk to you”

“You looked interesting and I just had to come say hi”

“You look adorable and I just had to come meet you”

“Hey, I have a weakness for tall blondes wearing red shoes, what else do you do you have going for you?”

“You seem friendly, hi”

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How To Approach Women [General]

Approaching women seems really hard when we first start doing it.  In reality it can be extraordinarily easy and simple.  Mystery said this about approaching women: It’s like jumping into a pool… the first time you do it, it’s cold and it might sting a little, but the second time is MUCH easier and after a while it feels perfectly fine. Funny enough though, the next day you’ll come back to the pool and it will STILL be cold when you jump in and you’ll have to repeat the whole process again.

Approaching women is the same thing, the first approach of every day will always be the hardest. After that, it’s smooth sailing.

Immediate Solution:

  • Walk up to the woman and say: “Hi, I noticed you and I would have been kicking myself if I didn’t come and introduce myself, my name is Chris”
    OR
  • Catch the woman’s eye, give her a big smile, and then walk up and say: “Hi, what are you up to?”

Technique:

  1. If you can’t think of what to say first, get inspired with some indirect openers or visit the situational section to have more specific openers, otherwise use a situational opener.
  2. Defeat approach anxiety with the 3 second rule.  The 3 second rule means that you only wait three seconds from the time you see an attractive women to the time that you approach her.  Just follow this mantra… “1, 2, 3 GO!!”

Body Language:

  1. Keep your head up, your mouth slightly parted and your face relaxed.
  2. Move slowly, breath deeply and talk clearly, slowly and relatively loud.
  3. While you are talking to her you should start off almost standing beside her (you are both looking at something), as you are talking you should be mirroring her.  As she becomes more comfortable and attracted to you she will began turning more and more towards you.  Make sure you follow her movements.

Motivation:

It’s important to have a strong motivation to approach that beautiful women on the street, even if you are feeling a little bit nervous.

  • Remember what Wayne Gretzky said, “You miss all the shots you don’t take”.
  • Next time you see a beautiful women that you want to approach tell yourself “If I don’t approach her I will never sleep with her”.

Final note about approaching women:

Attractive women don’t tend to approach men, even if they think you’re the best looking guy on the planet (perhaps especially if they think that).  If you’re in a public place and there’s a hot girl there, there are two possibilities: Either she’s not attracted to your looks and therefore you are insignificant to her, or she is attracted to your looks and would be easily open to an approach.  

Either way, she will not approach you.

The only way to really find out is to approach her and see what happens.  Once you do, the worst that can happen is a rejection and what does that mean?

Absolutely nothing, so GO!