Building a Connection -The Most Important Step

Critically Important For Love

Listening To and Accepting Her

When she is talking and expressing her views and opinions to you she is sharing an intimate part of herself and is, therefore vulnerable.  In building a connection it is important to show her that what she is saying is important to you and, even if you don’t agree with what she is saying that you respect and accept her that way.

• Truly focus on what she is saying and try to not think about what you are going to say next.
• Loosely paraphrase back to her the key points from what she is talking to you about.
• If you must disagree with her make sure that you do so while respecting that she has a different point of view than yourself.

Physical

• Be sure to hold eye contact, if it is too hard than focus somewhere on her face close to her eyes
• Frequently use appropriate kino with her, used correctly it will greatly deepen the connection
• Sit as close to her as is appropriate
• Always try to make your interactions face-to-face (as opposed to the internet or the telephone).

Final Note

Building a deep connection is very important but, recognise that it is very powerful and consider minimising the use of it with girls who you are just looking for a casual encounter with as it can cause them to become very attached to you.  One final practical tip:  Don’t be afraid to take notes after you are finished talking to her to make sure that you don’t forget important things about her.

Author: Leo

Leo has over 3000 hours of in-field experience and has instructed men in over 10 different countries. View all posts by Leo