More Steps For Insta-Dates
Step 2
Obviously you need to build a connection pretty rapidly to get an instant date. You’ll need to demonstrate that you’re a fun person to be with and at the same time build attraction. These two elements might be enough to get a girl to go along with you, but ultimately you also want to have comfort. If she’s going to go anywhere with you, she has to feel as if she can trust you.
Step 3
Lead the way. If you know that she’s available then it’s entirely up to you as a man to lead the interaction. After you feel you’ve built a connection then it will up to you to make the date happen. Women will usually never ask, so don’t count on it.
When leading: Don’t ask, suggest.
Examples:
Good: “Hey, we should get some ice cream, come I know this great place. ”
Bad: “Are you hungry? Do you want ice cream? ”
Allow me to explain.
It’s not that we are trying to force anyone into a situation, in fact it’s quite the opposite. If you ask someone if they want anything, the default answer will be “no”. People are trained to refuse offers from people because we’re constantly being bombarded by people trying to sell us things.
Conversely, we’re also trained to follow our peers when they go do fun activities. If one of your friends is headed to get ice cream, it’s very likely that you’ll at least join him. So apply this knowledge when leading and SUGGEST an activity instead of asking. You’ll get much better results!
